November 29, 2006

• The "Rules" (in the real world)

   

  of late, I've been trying to give my brother some sound advice on this mysterious process known as Dating in the Real World. It's actually quite a bit more difficult despite the 6 year age gap, because I've been in the debilitating disease known as Long Term Relationship for long enough that my love muscles have atrophied. Ew, gross imagery.

  anyway, I suddenly came up with a shuddering thought...I know nothing about dating in the mid-twenties world! it's as if i've emerged bleary-eyed from a 4-year hibernation and am witnessing a new world of completely different foliage. 9 questions I was curious about:

  The First Date

  1. How many days after this First Date do you call? Consensus seems to be at 2-3 days, with 4 being a clear signal either that you're really not interested, or just trying too hard to follow The Rules.
  2. To that end, what's appropriate: call, text, or email? Since I'm chained to a Crackberry like the rest of this corporate bubble, emailing me is like calling me. Calling is open to much misinterpretation and devastating overanalyzing because someone might not pick up not because you're actually a jellyfish clown*, but because he/she is actually standing next to the boss when the fateful call happens.
  3. No Sex on The First Date seems to be a universal, but what's okay? Good night kiss? Good night making out? Making out in room followed by random play (but no sex?) Or hell, just have sex as long as you make sure you don't stay the night?

  The Second Date (lucky you!)

  4. read something about how you should decline at least one date before agreeing on the second one, just so you don't seem desperate. sad...but makes some twisted sense.
  5. what's good for a second date?
  6. Should the girl pay? Offer to pay? I kind of like the idea of paying, but if you accept her offer to pay are you horribly tacky?

  
  The Third Date (wow, are we on a roll or what?)

  7. Men in the audience seem to be chanting "sex! sex! sex" as I type but come on, grow up. Call me old-fashioned but I'd say not just yet.
  8. But yes you may make out. IMHO.

  The DTR (aka. Judgement Day)

  10. Here comes the crux of it. When is it official? (please don't say Facebook.) Things as straightforward as asking are obvi, but I've heard also random things like when you first buy each other christmas/birthday presents, when you first turn down another dude asking you out, when your friends deem that you're dating, etc. Hence the popular girl-rant, "Yea...actually not really sure if we're going out."

   

   

   

   

   

   

  *** in other news... ***

   

  wyndaengel: am i an alcoholic? i feel kinda depressed from work and just kinda want to go get a drink
  shellsjs1218: well, alcoholism is when u feel like u can't control ur drinking
  shellsjs1218: but there's nothing wrong with just going to get a drunk
  wyndaengel: lol
  wyndaengel: great typo
  shellsjs1218: lol lol
  shellsjs1218: u can get a drunk too
  wyndaengel: i don't want a drunk
  wyndaengel: i want a drink and a hunk

   

   

   

   

   

  *i don't know where this term comes from. i just made it up. i was thining "clown in bed" when i realized my next point was No Sex, so then i ditched the "in bed" part and replaced it with "jellyfish." yeah.

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